My So-Called Poly Life

So I decided to start this blog a bit ahead of a project that my wife and I are looking to begin. That particular project is going to be a bit more broad-spanning and less solitary than this blog, so I feel that I can add a few more personal thoughts here.

We (Nyla and I) are hoping to launch a website for polyamorous individuals, couples, triad, et al here in Milwaukee, where we live. There is a community here, and we have interacted with some of them, but they're secretive - at least that's how they come across. I suppose it's similar to having been gay in the 60s or something. People just don't want to deal with the public outcry of your "living a strange life". I can understand that. Our hope with the project, though, is to bring like-minded poly folk together to share their thoughts, concerns, hopes, and failures on the website for others to read and relate to. It's nice to be able to relate with someone when times are hard. And believe me, being poly is not the easiest gig.

I'll probably divulge a bit of our past here every so often, but mostly I just want to share my thoughts on different aspects of being poly. Mostly I love it. Sometimes I hate it. It's a roller coaster of emotions, and sometimes it overwhelms me to the point where I just don't feel like dealing with it anymore. Then I realize the immaturity of such an action and double-back.

I think one of the biggest troubles I've had is my insecurities. I would imagine that's probably the biggest hurdle most poly's have. It's hard to get over something like that, even when have other people to help you out. It takes a lot of time and a lot of thought. My biggest problem was a feeling of being less talented and less accomplished than my wife's current partners. They have better jobs, they have a house, they're better off financially. It bothers me, and I wish it didn't. Insecurities comes and go, though, and some falter only to give rise to others. It happens, and I guess you just learn to deal with them. For me, talking helps a lot - or writing about it for others to partially experience the feelings with me. It's nice to know that others know what I'm feeling.

As things progress though this new blog, I'll go over some of my other thoughts, current situations, perhaps an event or two (as I know we're planning a dinner sometime in the future). Comments are always welcome - in fact, they're encouraged.

In closing, welcome.