Coming Out Poly

It pleases me to see good light put on the concepts of polyamory and open marriages. This article is good, but it kind of glosses over what could be a much better article. Plus, it focuses a bit too much on swinging and puts it a bit too close to polyamory - and they're vastly different. That is beside the point, though.

What annoys me is people who try their darnedest to shove their religion down my throat when it comes to my lifestyle choices. If you read the comments at the end of the story, there is a raging debate between the Fundies on the Right, and the logical-minded polys. It's a God-says-this-v.-my-experiences-says-otherwise discussion that just infuriates me. It irritates me mostly because I was raised in a fairly religious household, though we were never required to go to church (except during summer visits to my mother's house). There was a sense in my father that our life was our own to lead so long as no one got hurt. That's pretty much my philosophy now. What I do with my private life has nothing to do with anyone else outside of that life: so butt the fuck out of it and leave me alone!

I used to get red in the face with an old acquaintance of mine over things like evolution, "Big Bang" theory, et al. His argument always fell to the Bible, but he could never pinpoint passages that said any directly contrary to a SCIENTIFIC FACT. If your strongest source is a proven, fallible source, then I have little time to consider your argument: it's flawed.

So these people in the comments that seem to have it mind that anyone practicing swinging, poly, open marriage - whichever variation you choose - have a substantially higher chance of getting AIDS or other STDs or getting divorced or having failed marriages or ruining childrens' lives, have obviously been living in a very small bubble filled only with media jargon that they can point to and say: "See! I told you so." My marriage has last three years - a short time compared to some, yes, but it's still higher than the average - and we've been practicing poly for over a year now. Nearly half of our marriage has been spent with the possibility for other people being a part of it. We're disease-free; we have no overwhelming problems; God has not struck us down; and above all - we're happy.

Makes you think: maybe these people are jealous that my lot is better than theirs.