The big and small of it
Ever since the inception of this blog, Nyla and I have had the intention of becoming a part of the community that we inevitably became a part of. A little redundant, yes, but it makes sense - trust me. By the very nature of realizing we were poly, we became part of the community - silent though it may be; our desire, however, was to become active - to have a voice within our city that represented poly. The unfortunate thing is that there really isn't much of a community for us; or, rather, we've already sort of found everyone that we can relate to.
Nyla is 22; I am 27. We both had a very strange experience with the older generation when we went to a poly meeting in Madison. They were swingers, into D/s, and very much not what we were looking for. I think, too, it's hard to relate to someone one or two generations different from you because your life experiences are completely different. So we wanted to find poly folk in our own age-range. The only problem is that we're at the point now where we've either already found them, or they're somewhere in hiding - which is a shame.
True story: Nyla put up an ad on craigslist looking for a girlfriend. The only females who replied that Nyla was interested in were all people that she already knew. It was a little flattering to her to know that her friends liked her, but that just makes things way too incestuous in my opinion. In a similar vein, Elle's friend Rae ended up hanging out with a poly couple we know, who is moving in with another poly couple we know and didn't know that we were all "in the know".
I suppose my point is this: there is a community, but we've yet to truly build it. Young poly's are growing as our generation becomes more aware of the non-mandatory nature of marriage in this country and the realization that having multiple relationships doesn't make you a whore. There is a reason we call it responsible non-monogamy. It just makes more sense sometimes to live your life without worrying about placating someone's conceptualization of how you should live your life and have your relationships. And young poly's, I think, are either scared to tread this kind of water for fear of alienating themselves, or they're just unaware (or unsure) of what it is that they truly feel about relationships in general. I.E. - they don't realize that they're poly or non-monogamous.
On another note, I'm obsessive about my Google analytics checking, and I found two very cool things. One, someone found my blog by searching for "cunning minx". I hope someone tells her that I mentioned her :) And two, there's a blogger in Norway who reads my blog. Now that is cool.