I came home today to a magazine that my roommates and I don't subscribe to. It goes to some Todd guy that used to live her 2 years ago. For some reason it keeps coming. It's called COMPLEX magazine, and whenever we get it, we'll page through it without thinking. Really almost the entire thing is advertisements, but it smells kind of good.

Anyway, today I come home to it, glance over, and what does it say on the front cover? "HOW TO CHEAT ON YOUR GIRLFRIEND (& GET AWAY WITH IT)

Excuse me? What the fuck?

You can access the full article here: http://www.complex.com/ENTERTAINMENT/FEATURES/The-Complex-Guide-to-Cheating for I do not suggest actually buying the rag of a mag. But for a brief summation, this article is a how-to guide on cheating - and getting not getting caught. It lists off, in a step-by-step manner, 1) who you should sleep with (ie. the ex, a younger girl, some random chick), 2)the risks involved, 3) how to "do the deed", 4) the aftermath, 5) Loopholes (may favorite: "It's NOT cheating if 90% of your clothes stay on"), and 6) conflict resolution (what to do if even after following this brilliant guide, your dumb ass still gets caught).

I can only hope this is satire. Reading it aloud to my roommate we agreed that it just *had* to be, but if not, all I have to say is, "Are you for serious COMPLEX? Really?"

Starting in 2009, we will be an official group. Nyla, Elle, and I will be moderating a group here in Milwaukee that will meet monthly. We hope to make it a very discussion-based group that can focus on a great many topics related to poly, relationships, sexuality, and the like.

We will be meeting at The Tool Shed in Milwaukee. The website is: www.toolshedtoys.com. The address for the store is on the site, as is their phone number should you need it. You can also always feel free to email me if you have more specific questions. We'll be meeting the third Wednesday of each month, beginning on January 21st.

If you're planning on attending, please let me know, so I have an idea of how many people will be there and how many chairs we'll need. Please also bring some ideas for what we can do with the group. Nyla and I already have some ideas, and we'll bring those up at the group. I look forward to seeing some old friends and meeting some new ones.

Edit: we've solidified a time for meeting at The Tool Shed. We'll be starting the meeting at 7pm. Please do show up a few minutes early, so we can start the meeting as close to 7 as possible and get out before Laura closes shop.

Hello everyone. Yeah, it's been a while, but things have been beyond hectic, and we've all been a bit out of sorts lately. Let's hope things get a little better, and we get on track. Here are a few things.

First, for those of you who may not have seen this, here is a special comment by Keith Olbermann of "Countdown" regarding Prop 8 in California. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&source=web&ct=res&cd=3&url=http%3A%2F%2Fw.... You should watch it.

Second, we will be starting our meetings again come January at the new location of The Tool Shed in Milwaukee. It's on the East Side (we'll post the address), and we'll give you times. It will be monthly. It will be awesome.

Lastly, I received an email from a gentleman requesting a link swap. I'm all about link swaps, so here you go. There's a link here in the post, and there will be a link on the right-hand side under Poly Resources. Hope that's what you're looking for. Cheers. "For discreet, accurate
HIV testing, please visit www.localhivtesting.com!

Hope everyone is well.

Killian

I recently posted a Craigslist ad asking for a pen pal. I was incredibly bored and had just gotten an email from one of my other pen pals stating that he would be moving to Kentucky and probably wouldn't have much time to write anymore. It was understandable, but I guess I was still kind of hurt. I love writing and emails are really one of my only outlets for that part of my life anymore. So I posted this ad and got dozens and dozens of responses. Most of whom obviously didn't read the ad itself because, FYI, I was not asking for a date, I was asking for a writing buddy. Apparently that was not evident when I said "pen pal" and not "fuck buddy" or "future husband"...

ANYWAY, there were a few guys that answered that seemed genuinely nice and non-retarded. The emails I actually respond to have dwindled down to about 3 in the past few weeks (from about 20 :S), and one stood out as a pretty nice dude, someone I was even willing to go out to coffee with, and told such to said guy. Then I told him about my relationship. When he asked me if I was seeing anyone I told him I was in an open relationship. Later I added that it was to a married man. He then went forth to put him down and tell me he had no right to get married to his wife, that I basically shouldn't be with him, and that he "hesitates to call it a relationship" because I "just happen to be fucking a guy that just happens to be married." **

Needless to say I stopped texting him right quick. Oh, and that coffee date was as good as dead the moment he told me I that I'm "obligated" to have kids with someone else (I'm guessing he meant with himself) because I'm an intelligent person and smart people need to breed more...

Where do people get off thinking they can tell other people what to do with their lives? >.< Grr, I just needed to vent. Ok, I feel a bit better now.

~Elle

**Killian and I are celebrating out one year anniversary in 2 days. I consider a one year long relationship pretty solid, don't you? PS) Yay, us! ^_^

Tristan Taormino has put up a new message board on her new site for her new book. Lots of new things :-) Look into it.