From the Pulitzer Prize-winning author of "The Hours" comes a story that chronicles a dozen years in the lives of two best friends who couldn't be more different. From suburban Cleveland in the 60s, to New York City in the 80s, where they meet an older woman, the film charts a journey of trials, triumphs, loves and losses. Now the question is: can they navigate the unusual triangle they've created and hold their friendship together?

by Denis Clifford, Frederick Hertz, and Emily Doskow

Medical care issues receive substantial attention in this new edition--powers of attorney, visitation, insurance, burial, property, and finances, with detailed sample documents included. Other revised topics include estate planning; lawyers and legal research, including a list of lesbian and gay rights organizations; and surrogate mothers. Other chapters (property, finances, children, and breaking up) have basically remained the same. Convenient full-size tear-out agreement forms are appended, as well as a new list of AIDS organizations. While Eric Marcus's Male Couple's Guide to Living Together ( LJ 3/1/88) covers similar ground, this is quite thorough and contains a great deal of practical advice that could be used by heterosexual couples as well. Recommended for public and academic libraries, and legal collections.

A romantic comedy about a doctor trying to win back his wife after she leaves him over an affair of his.

This is for the non-primary, the secondary, the one who got there after. Regardless of your self-identifier, this page will address the issues that one may face when entering a pre-existing relationship. In some instances it is harder. In others it is not. This is not about contesting who has it worst. It is about seeing things from the other point of view. I speak with the authority of living it. I have no PHD's, so take my words as you will.

A woman who is about to divorce her philandering husband of 23 years finds he's had a debilitating stroke, and comes home only to care for him. She finds companionship with a friend, which leads to romance. The three must then deal with the complex feelings on all sides.

Two families are unhappy with their respective relationships: first of ambitious businessman Jeffrey Byron and sexually frustrated Marianne and second of repair contractor Lucky Mann and former B-movie actress Phyllis. When Lucky arrives to Byron's apartment to make some minor repair and Marianne becomes obsessed with him, the everyday balance breaks.

by Laura Kipnis

In this ragingly witty yet contemplative look at the discontents of domestic and erotic relationships, Kipnis (Bound and Gagged: Pornography and the Politics of Fantasy in America) combines portions of the slashing sexual contrarianism of Mailer, the scathing antidomestic wit of early Roseanne Barr and the coolly analytical aesthetics of early Sontag: "Aren't all adulterers amateur collagists? We're scavengers and improvisers, constructing odd assemblages out of detritus and leftovers: a few scraps of time and some dormant emotions...." With a razor-sharp intelligence and a gleeful sense of irony, Kipnis dismantles the myths of romance surrounding monogamy and makes the case for why adultery is a reasonable, often used, escape hatch. Kipnis is often most funny when at her most provocative ("Feel free to take a second to mull this over, or to make a quick call: `Hi hon, just checking in!' "), but even her moments of sarcastic humor can have a sobering effect, as when Kipnis considers the reasons behind the public's obsessive need for reading about real and fictional stories of spousal murders, noting that "perhaps these social pathologies and aberrations of love are the necessary fallout from the social conventions of love." Kipnis is adroit at detailing (sometimes with "notoriously unreliable" sexual self-reporting statistics) how our desire for fidelity is often at odds with basic human needs for personal freedom, and is terrific in dissecting how-or so Kipnis's case goes-"family values" politicians like Newt Gingrich fail miserably to live up to their own rhetoric. In the end, she concludes that adultery and fidelity have to exist side-by-side: "let's face it: purity always flirts with defilement." Kipnis balances her scintillating, on-target observations on straying with an honest sense of compassion for human experience.

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This is a home page for the Usenet newsgroup alt.polyamory.

Provides basic poly FAQs and resources.

The Alternatives to Marriage Project (AtMP) advocates for equality and fairness for unmarried people, including people who are single, choose not to marry, cannot marry, or live together before marriage. We provide support and information for this fast-growing constituency, fight discrimination on the basis of marital status, and educate the public and policymakers about relevant social and economic issues. We believe that marriage is only one of many acceptable family forms, and that society should recognize and support healthy relationships in all their diversity. AtMP is a national 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization.

The Alternatives to Marriage Project is not against marriage. But we believe that unmarried relationships also deserve validation and support. People may be pressured to marry by their families, friends, and communities. They may also face marital status discrimination. We oppose this unfair treatment and advocate for the equal rights of unmarried people.

According to the 2000 Census, there are eleven million unmarried people living with an unmarried partner in the United States today, and this number has grown 72% in the last decade alone. Millions more people are not currently in relationships or do not live with their partner, and have no plans to marry. There are many reasons people choose not to get married. Some people, like same-sex couples and those in relationships of more than two people, are not legally allowed to marry.

The Alternatives to Marriage Project is open to everyone, including singles, couples, married people, people in relationships with more than two people, and people of all genders and sexual orientations. We welcome our married supporters, who are among the many friends, relatives, and allies of unmarried people.

by Helen Fisher

"Captivates the reader, answers all those puzzling questions that caused your mother (or priest or guidance counselor or gym teacher) to blame God and/or hormones....Her prediction of a more open and egalitarian order provides a compelling--and hopeful--vision for the future."
THE PHILADELPHIA INQUIRER
Love at first sight...the copulatory gaze...dinner dates...jealousy... intimacy... homesexuality...infidelity...Dr.Helen Fisher, an anthropologist at the American Museum of Natural History, explains it all in this four-million-year history of the human species. She demystifies much about romance and pairing that we tend to believe is willfull or just plain careless. She offers new explanations for why men and women fall in love, marry, and divorce, and discusses the future of sex in a way that will surprise you.

Three episodes based on "Red Shoe Diaries", first episode concerns a woman who has two different lovers, who satisfy different needs. More dishonest monogamy than polyamory.

Cast: David Duchovny, Matt LaBlanc, Maryam d'Abo

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Demi-Dieu (Demigod), a rich farmer and head of the villiage, already has five women. He decides to marry a sixth, young Binta. But Binta is a modern woman and self-confident. Unwilling to be kept in tutelage by him, she gets in conflict with him and the other five women. A pungent comedy on polygamy.

A charismatic convict and a hypochondriac inmate break out of prison in a cement truck and immediately start a bank robbing spree. Becoming known as the "Sleepover Bandits", the two kidnap bank managers the night before their robbery, spend the night with their families, and then all go to the bank in the morning to get the dough. Using a dim-witted stunt man as their getaway driver and lookout, the three successfully pull off several jobs that gets them recognition on a TV show about America's criminals. When a bored housewife with a failing marriage decides to runaway, she ends up in the hands of the criminals. Initially attracted to Willis, she nonetheless also ends up in bed with Thornton and a confused romantic relationship begins. Continuing along with their spree, the bandits hit the wall when the bank managers realize that they are non-violent and therefore no threat to them or their employees. This leads to one more big score at the Alamo Bank, where in the very opening scenes, things appear to go awry.

At the turn of the century, Henri Gauthier-Villars, a notorious bachelor, marries the young country girl Gabrielle Colette and introduces her to debauched Parisian life. Gabrielle keeps a diary of all her experiences, which Villars, the spendthrift heir to a publishing house, prints as the Claudine series under his pen-name of "Willy". Villars sets up a threesome with Gabrielle and Polaire, one of his mistresses, but the women become lovers and allies. Gabrielle finally becomes fed up with the duplicity of Villars, and publishes her books under her own name "Colette".

A Spanish soldier deserts from the army in 1931, only to find himself arrested by a group of local policemen. He is released and soon befriends a lonely, old man in the local village. Problems arise when the old man's daughters come to visit their father and the soldier quickly falls in love with each of them.

by Fritz Klein and Thomas Schwartz

This astonishing volume offers an intimate look into the lives and thoughts of married gay and bisexual men. Their struggle with conflicting needs, desires, and loyalties is told in their own words. Bisexual and Gay Husbands includes their own advice and information on coming out, sexual orientation, male-male relationships, triads, wives, children, and leaving. The insight, intelligence, and honesty revealed in Bisexual and Gay Husbands make it a riveting read, but it also has great clinical and historic value for therapists, sex theorists, and bisexual men and their families.

Couples Bob & Carol Sanders and Ted & Alice Henderson are best friends. After attending a weekend self-help self-discovery session (Bob is planning on making a documentary film on the subject), Bob and Carol feel newly enlightened, and want their friends, Ted and Alice, to feel the same way. "Feel" is the operative word as they want people now to feel rather than think. The foursome each examine their feelings, and admittedly their thoughts toward their individual relationships with each other and the topic of sex when Bob admits to Carol that he had a meaningless sexual dalliance, which Carol later mentions to Ted and Alice. After pushing the sexual boundaries with others, the foursome decide they have one last boundary to cross truly to test what they consider their new enlightened state.

By Jarod Lojeck (Author), Michelle Devon (Editor)

When Barbara & Jack fell in love, they knew their love had no bounds. When they agreed to an open marriage neither believed anything could change the devotion and happiness they had found in each other.
The one thing neither of them had counted on, though, came in the form of a sexy, seductive, young black woman named Kiera, who swept Barbara off her feet.
Unable to contain her feelings for Kiera, and unwilling to keep them a secret any longer, Barbara makes the difficult choice to confess her love for Kiera to her husband.
Two beautiful women from completely different worlds and a man caught in the middle…
…What happens next will surely test the limits of their Boundless Love.

by Kevin Lano

Personal experience, advice, and theory comprise this source book on responsible non-monogamy.

Drama set in a repressed, deeply religious community in the north of Scotland, where a naive young woman named Bess McNeil meets and falls in love with Danish oil-rig worker Jan. Bess and Jan are deeply in love but, when Jan returns to his rig, Bess prays to God that he returns for good. Jan does return, his neck broken in an accident aboard the rig. Because of his condition, Jan and Bess are now unable to enjoy a sexual relationship and Jan urges Bess to take another lover and tell him the details. As Bess becomes more and more deviant in her sexual behavior, the more she comes to believe that her actions are guided by God and are helping Jan recover.

French film about a woman who becomes pregnant by one of her lovers. The three of them wind up forming a family of sorts to raise the child.

The story of the relationship between painter Dora Carrington and author Lytton Strachey in a World War One England of cottages and countryside. Although platonic due to Strachey's homosexuality, the relationship was nevertheless a deep and complicated one. When Carrington did develop a more physical relationship with soldier Ralph Partridge, Strachey was able to welcome him as a friend, although Partridge remained somewhat uneasy, not so much with Strachey's lifestyle and sexual orientation as with the fact that he was a conscientious objector.

The Chesapeake Polyamory Network (CPN) was founded in 1998 and is a private, voluntary, nonprofit membership organization, serving the mid-Atlantic region of Maryland, the District of Columbia, Delaware, Northern Virginia, West Virginia, and south-central Pennsylvania.

We are made up of families and individuals 18 and over and dedicated to supporting those who choose to live a lifestyle that includes committed, loving relationships with more than one partner. We do this through informational and educational programs for members, a wide range of social and recreational activities, a thriving online listserve, several dedicated Special Interest Groups (SIGs), and outreach and advocacy efforts directed at improving the general public's awareness, understanding, and acceptance of the polyamorous lifestyle as a legitimate, respectable alternative to traditional monogamy.

These meditations are intended to challenge and restructure common beliefs about the nature of love and relationship. Guaranteed to raise your consciousness and give you a new perspective. Many people report that these meditations are good medicine!

China in the 1920's. After her father's death, nineteen year old Songlian is forced to marry Chen Zuoqian, the lord of a powerful family. Fifty year old Chen has already three wives, each of them living in separate houses within the great castle. The competition between the wives is tough, as their master's attention carries power, status and privilege. Each night Chen must decide with which wife to spend the night and a red lantern is lit in front of the house of his choice. And each wife schemes and plots to make sure it's hers. However, things get out of hand...

At the beginning of the 20th century, a young servant provokes an independent Irish farm community by her relationship with two brothers. Pregnant, she refuses to reveal the name of the father.

Search results on the social bookmarking site Delicious for the term Polyamory.

German Film. A man falls in love with 3 women separately, then feels badly about deluding them. All winds up happily.

Two Americans sharing a flat in Paris, playwright Tom Chambers and painter George Curtis, fall for free-spirited Gilda Farrell. When she can't make up her mind which one of them she prefers, she proposes a "gentleman's agreement": She will move in with them as a friend and critic of their work, but they will never have sex. But when Tom goes to London to supervise a production of one of his plays, leaving Gilda alone with George, how long will their gentleman's agreement last?

Set in 1949 New York, a Holocaust survivor (Ron Silver) who makes a living as a ghostwriter for a Jewish rabbi, finds himself involved with three women - his current wife (Margaret Sophie Stein), a passionate affair with a married woman (Lena Olin), and his long-vanished wife (Anjelica Huston) whom he thought was killed during the war and suddenly reappears. The film concentrates on the views of the Jewish survivors, who no longer abide by religious morales and question a God who could let the Holocaust occur.

by Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

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A 19th Annual Lambda Literary Awards Finalist!

This poignant fictionalized memoir chronicles the evolution of an extraordinary life in progress. Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio, one of the planet's foremost advocates of bisexual/polyamorous living, takes readers along on her bold journeys away from the mainstream and into the realm of erotic self-discovery, and in the process, offers her irreverent critiques of society, education, theory, sexuality, and epistemology. This reader-friendly book describes the author's early life in Italy in the politically charged 1960s and 1970s and her time in California; her journey over the treacherous path from graduate student to educator; and from a "straight" and monogamous early adulthood to her emergence as a person at all times prepared to defy convention for the sake of integrity--a writer and woman well worth getting to know!

In Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves, the author candidly recounts her development as an independent woman and single mother through her international and transcultural journeys. She shares her remarkable insights into mid-twentieth-century life and politics in Italy, into the culture and politics of American academia, and into California's holistic health practices and bisexual communities. Many of her views are unconventional; some are downright controversial, but all are essential to the context of her life.

Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves brings you along as Gaia, the author's fictionalized self, arrives in the United States in the early 1980s as a mom on her own and embarks upon her culturally mandated search for male mentors in US academia--in the effort to breach gender barriers in the publishing world. Her journey takes her to California in the 1980s and 1990s, as the experimental energies of the previous decades still lingered on. There she constructs her sexuality and realizes her lifestyle: Hippies and other new-age types populate the area around Cardiff. Hangouts line the Coastal Highway, up to the ashram of the Self-Realization Fellowship, with its meditation gardens on the sea-point. Then there is Encinitas, with its health-food restaurants, artisan shops, and metaphysical bookstores. The colorful flyers posted to ubiquitous advertising boards speak of a community bursting with energy. Neo-pagan fire-walks, moonlight Wicca rituals, discounted massage sessions, biofeedback, guided meditation, all kinds of new holistic-health methods are the kinds of activities one can get involved in. The whole area is very environmentally conscious. The area around the ashram teems with healers in various specialties. The Sunday market smells of incense and sage, with wind chimes dangling from the stands, and new-age CDs on vendors' boom-boxes. It is there that I healed from the diseases of modernity.

The author was raised in Italy, by a father who was a congressman and a cabinet vice minister. In an especially poignant section she writes directly to her Italian daughter Sara--about her politically charged upbringing in Italy and why she left for America: Perhaps my departure to the New World was a way to evade a situation where I saw no future for you or me. The [Italian] system was besieged by opposing forces which polarized the tensions that resulted from Italy's strategic position with respect to the Iron Curtain. Thanks to superpower ideology, we grew up knowing nothing about our Eastern neighbors--their mysterious world wrapped in a cloud of biased information. Little did we know that while they lay dying in a stagnant economy, we were enduring the growing pains of a country in the process of coming into postmodernity from a largely premodern state. Sara, would Italians of your generation behave more mercifully toward their guest workers than German, French, American, Argentinean, and Australian hosts had behaved toward the destitute Italian immigrants of yore? I crossed the ocean with a university degree and acquired another in the process, only to find out that, for all my education, I was but a speck in that migrant flow anyway.

From her educational beginnings in a Montessori school--and her mother's role as an outspoken advocate of that style of schooling--to her love of nudity and freedom from bodily inhibitions, which also came naturally, from her mother, the author reveals her innermost thoughts and shares the wisdom her remarkable life has blessed her with. Eros: A Journey of Multiple Loves is an extraordinary read for anyone who wants to expand their horizons and take a fresh look at what humanity is all about.

The Power Dynamics of Cheating: Effects on Polyamory and Bisexuality

Jealousy and Control

Compulsory Monogamy and Sexual Minorities

Bisexuals and the Slut Myth

Poly Politics: Lessons from Queer Liberation

Border Wars: Swinging and Polyamory

By Joan Burda

The landscape concerning same-sex relationships is changing. It is vital for lawyers to stay on top of these changes. Attorneys who represent lesbian and gay clients must provide creative estate planning that protects both parties, their children and their future.

Darlene, earthy and unmarried, returns to the cane fields of Bahia with her young son. There, over time, she balances the pride, desire, jealousy, and tolerance of three men. Osias, an older man, proud of a house he's built, proposes marriage; she accepts. He retires to his hammock, she works hard, and in a few years births a second son, much darker than Osias. Then, he takes in his cousin Zezinho, almost as old as he, a good cook, so Osias is happy. Darlene smiles at Zezinho. Another son arrives, light-skinned like Zezinho. Next, Darlene meets Ciro, young and handsome, and invites him to dinner. Osias insists Ciro stay. When another son arrives, what will the proud Osias do?

"Expansive Loving" is for those interested in and/or practicing Polyamory (multiple sexual-loving relationships with the full knowledge and consent of all involved), with spirituality and Sacred Love as the grounding for their life and relationships. Poly-folk with an interest in spiritual polyamory, spiritual-sexual integration, creating sexuality-positive culture, living consciously and in touch with the Sacred, the Tantric/Taoist and Earth-based paths, eco-action and social action/change may find this group of particular interest.

We welcome members from all spiritual paths without judgement or debate (regarding those paths). We are here to share from and support each other in our intention to engage in conscious loving from a deep heart space.

Our discussions include concepts such as "transparency", "non-violent communication", information on sexual health and healing, models and ideas around community building, sexual rights advocacy and "considerate autonomy"/non-agreement polyamory.

This group serves world-wide. No matter where you live, you are welcome to join. As well as welcoming all spiritual orientations, we warmly welcome all sexual and gender preferences (or lack thereof), and all those who otherwise self-identify as LGBTQ. The same holds true regardless of race, ethnicity, "Life-style"/Love-style, marital status or ability difference.

“Family” is an episodic tale of alternative love. Set in Seattle, the show follows the lives of Gemma, Ben & Stuart, 30-somethings living together in a polyamorous triad. The series is presented in 5-7 minute episodes viewed exclusively at online video portal sites like YouTube. “Family” is the creation of Seattle actress & filmmaker Terisa Greenan, and is loosely based on her own polyamorous life with her two male partners. Episode #1 became available on November 15, 2008, and Greenan has committed to producing two episodes per month for at least a full year.

Family Synergy (FS) is a Social/Educational Club in Southern California supporting Open Relationships. It is a place to explore alternatives to traditional monogamy in a warm, supportive, humanistic atmosphere.

We're a non-profit social/networking group exploring alternative loving relationships (i.e. polyamory, polyfidelity). Our objectives are to facilitate discussion and the exchange of ideas, the collection and dissemination of information about the expanded family in all its forms as well as on open relationships and group living. We also wish to provide ways for people interested in furthering, researching, or participating in these alternative lifestyles to meet, to get to know, and to keep in touch with one another.

The story of the 18th century castrati opera star. There are a number of scenes portraying the title character and his brother sharing a woman. This movie is rated R.

The Florida Poly Retreat (FPR) is a regional level polyamory retreat/conference started in 2003 organized by the polyamory communities of Florida. We offer:

* Workshops to educate, share and improve essential relationship skills
* Nightly campfires, music circles
* Family style meals
* Onsite guesthouses camping
* Social activities designed to meet and get to know other poly-minded people
* Flexible pricing options
* Pool and Hiking

by Daphne Rose Kingma

After more than two decades as a psychotherapist, relationship counselor and author (Finding True Love, etc.), Kingma suggests turning away from issues of the personality to those of the soul in loving relationships. She spends a lot of time criticizing "traditional" marriage ("suffocates the individual vivid soul") and the nuclear family ("intense focus and neurosis"), but she eventually does include them among the many possibilities of "soulful relationships." While her overall message of acceptance for, and celebration of, the many varieties of love seems perfectly sound, it's questionable whether a majority of American adults today would view "multiple-person relationships, relationships that defy age or gender boundaries, or embody astonishing emotional or spiritual acrobatics" as "failures or aberrations." Kingma offers comfort for the occasional pangs of concern over not having fulfilled the myth of get-married-and-live-happily-ever-after, but her discussions of "relaxing boundaries" and forgiveness could be problematic for those facing issues of addiction or abuse. Her implication that changing the "forms" of relationships makes them "illumined" is debatable, moreover. Her most valuable contribution here seems to be her discussion of the "ten qualities of a soulful relationship": self-awareness, aliveness, realism, honesty, generosity, empathy, forgiveness, thanksgiving, consecration and joy. As she wisely makes clear, these soulful attributes can be present, or not, in myriad forms of relationship.

Laurent is the local estate agent, a job that offers easy opportunties for his womanising. His wife beautiful wife Loli looks after his home and two children unaware of his many affairs. However, their world is turned upside down by the arrival of Marijo, an itinerant lesbian whose minivan breaks down nearby. The neglected Loli is drawn to the sensitive Marijo and when she learns of Laurent's infidelities, invites Marijo to move in with them. The arrangement takes an emotional toll on each of them, exacerbated by the arrival of a figure from Marijo's past. As they struggle with the situation and each other, all of their lives are changed forever.

by Larry L Constantine

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Often in poly relationships, one person may be dating or considering dating another person who is already part of an existing couple. Sometimes, one person may be considering dating both members of an existing couple. It's quite common for polyamorous people to begin new relationships while already in a relationship; this is, after all, the nature of polyamory.

If you're considering dating someone who's already in an established relationship, it might be tempting to believe that person has less at stake than you do--less risk of hurt, less emotional vulnerability--because, after all, that person already has someone else to fall back on if your relationship doesn't work out, right?

In practice, it doesn't work that way. Being involved romantically with someone does not make the pain of losing a relationship any less. (In fact, I've written an entire essay on this topic.) This page is intended to provide some tips for would-be "third wheels" to avoid causing unnecessary pain.

Stanley, Harry, Sheila and Beth have just finished their first year at Harrad College and have a special bond together. Harrad College isn't an ordinary school. The school conducts an experiment where students from different sex are put together in one room. Sexual freedom is encouraged. Now the summer break has arrived, the four have decided to spend the holidays together. They will visit an old friend of Beth and after that spend two weeks at the families of Stanley, Harry and Sheila. They have to fight against bias however. Not everyone is fond of Harrad College and some see it as only an easy way for the students to fulfill their feelings of lust. Will the relationships and beliefs of the four students hold up under the constant pressure?

Based on the infamous Summer of 1816 when Mary Shelley wrote "Frankenstein", it chronicles the mind games and manipulations that were the halmarks of the intense and neurotic relationships that existed among Byron, Shelley, Mary, and her step-sister Claire Godwin.

This is the story of "beat" reporter Jack Kerouac's affair with a married couple.

Often we go into any multi-partnered relationship with the idea that it's always going be a bed of roses. After the honeymoon wears off, however, more weighty matters tend to settle in, however. If you are in or are considering a polyamorous relationship, have you considered aspects such as ...

* legal non-existence
* pervasive social training
* aggressive political climate
* financial complications

In 1931 Paris, Anais Nin meets Henry Miller (Fred Ward) and his wife June. Intrigued by them both, she begins expanding her sexual horizons with her husband Hugo as well as with Henry and others. June shuttles between Paris and New York trying to find acting jobs while Henry works on his first major work, "Tropic of Cancer," a pseudo-biography of June. Anais and Hugo help finance the book, but June is displeased with Henry's portrayal of her, and Anais and Henry have many arguments about their styles of writing on a backdrop of a Bohemian lifestyle in Paris.

How can a monogamous person be poly-friendly?
I originally encountered this question in a livejournal conversation, and followed up with a quick brainstormed list. The following list is a rewrite that expands on a number of points and incorporates the comments from the livejournal community.
Please read this piece in a constructive and positive manner. It is really intended in a spirit of friendship and cooperation. I am not saying that all monogamous people must do all these things right now - just that every time you do one of these things, it really makes our lives easier and we really appreciate it. Many of these things are small and easy considerations. My hope is that monogamous people who are new to the idea of polyamory will use this list as a reference guide to avoid many of the usual monogamous/polyamorous interaction pitfalls.

Young Metro Poly put together an awesome series of articles on starting poly group.

Here is an outline of the articles in this series:

* Finding Others: From Individual to Group
* Creating Vision: What Do You (As A Group) Want to Accomplish?
* Building the Framework, Part 1: Determining Your Organizational Structure
* Building the Framework, Part 2: Creating the Group Bylaws and Constitution
* Communication: The Group Email List and/or Forum
* Location, Location, Location: Establishing Social Events and Venues
* Finding Others, Revisited: Planning for New Members

This is a good website with a lot of information on it about polyamory, sexuality, and other good bits of info on relationships. I came across via Twitter.

Harriet and her boyfriend Nick are rock musicians in their thirties, desperately trying to land a recording contract. Harriet hatches a plan to get the rich older bookworm, Jeremy, to fund them by stringing him along by pretending to love him. She even goes so far as to marry him, hoping for a quick divorce.

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In 1912, in Paris, the French bon-vivant Jim meets the insecure German Jules and they begin a great friendship. When they meet the fickle and independent French Catherine, they immediately fall in love for her. However the naiveness and fragility of Jules attracts the amoral Catherine and she marries him. With the First World War, the best friends Jules and Jim are separated but after the war, they reunite in Jules cottage in Germany. Jim stays with Jules, Catherine and their daughter Sabine, and Jules tells his friend that he is living together with Catherine, but she has affairs with her lovers. When Catherine falls in love with Jim, Jules asks him to stay with her at his house. Along the years, Jules and Jim live a triangle of love with Catherine, but never affecting their friendship and respect.

Kinsey Confidential is a sexuality information service designed by The Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender, and Reproduction to meet the sexual health information needs of students and college-age adults with accessible, topical information based on current scientific knowledge. This site contains articles on a variety of sex information topics and questions and answers from our weekly student newspaper column, The Kinsey Confidential.

Originally called The Kinsey Institute Sexuality Information Service for Students (KISISS), and designed for Indiana University students, faculty and staff, it is sponsored by the Mary B. Orvis Fund, Indiana University School of Medicine. Jennifer Bass, Director of Communications for The Kinsey Institute, developed the site in 1999. The current site was designed by Rob Dietz and Steven Shyu. Dr. Debby Herbenick provides the answers to Kinsey Confidential. Other content has come from Marie Metelnick and Emily Nagoski, and our student interns. The photograph in the header image at the top of this website is by Herbert Ascherman Jr.

The Kinsey Institute at Indiana University promotes interdisciplinary research and scholarship in the fields of human sexuality, gender, and reproduction.

by Celeste West

Ever wonder where all the lesbian feminists have gone? Here is one answer. The author of Lesbian Polyfidelity dares to love outside the lines of monogamy and has generously provided suggestions for those who are trying to navigate honest love lives that respect each woman's differing needs.

One by one, West shreds objections to loving more than one woman like so much confetti to throw in the face of the love police. With humor and wisdom, she assures us that love is not an addiction any more than fresh air is an addiction; there is plenty of both to go around. "Love is life affirming, generous, powerful, brave, and probably the most nourishing thing on this sad earth."

Is having more than one lover a psychopathology? The author tells us to avoid any psychotherapist who presents monogamy as the only healthy option.

While rewarding, polyfidelity offers its own challenges and this book provides suggestions for dealing with jealousy and setting personal boundaries. Along with her spiritual view of life, the author throws in a few breakfast recipes, reminding us to have healthy food around the house to sustain the emotional and physical energy required for relationships.

I was fortunate to have bought Lesbian Polyfidelity on line without having seen the cover. Though the cover is delightful -- a cartoon-like drawing of many cavorting nude women of various skin tones -- I might easily have judged this book by it and never picked it up, assuming that lesbian polyfidelity meant group sex or orgies (it doesn't), which interest me not at all. Instead, the book is about lesbian couples who want more fulfilling love lives but do not want to break up, and single women who enjoy variety.

This book is sex positive, love-positive, life-positive and lesbian-positive. Though skeptical about monogamy, it prescribes no one way to live or love, respecting the choices of women interested in no sex and those who want a lot. "Surely 'sexual liberation' also means the freedom to refrain from sex as we know it..." West writes.

Whether or not you ever explore a polyfidelitous life, this book provides an entertaining critique of our culture's assumptions about what is normal and possible.

This is an e-mail list for lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgendered (LGBT) people who are interested or involved in polyamorous and/or non-monogamous relationships, and who want to discuss LGBT poly issues and policy concerns. The purpose of this group is to encourage building and bridging communities, through organizing and activism.

Lianna and her husband Dick has been married for a few years but the mariage isn't a happy one, since Dick treats her with arrogance. One day Lianna falls in love - with Ruth, a teacher. The people who know them behave very diffently: her husband with feelings of sexual betrayal, her children with curiosity and Lianna's friends with ambivalence.

This is a friendly community to discuss all aspects of polyamory, positive and negative. Whether you're polyamorous, or just curious about polyamory, please feel free to post your questions and observations here. All levels of experience are welcome. Discussion about all aspects of the theory and practice of polyamory is encouraged.

by Ralph Warner (Attorney)

Living together out of wedlock can mean anything, especially in court -- unlike married couples, most unmarried couples don't automatically inherit or receive protection under the law. Consequently, you must document everything from property ownership and children to wills and other estate plans.

An essential resource for any unmarried couple, Living Together explains:

# the legality of living together
# having and raising children
# the many types of ownership agreements
# relationships with a prior family
# getting authorization to make medical decisions for an ill or injured partner

Living Together includes:

# a complete overview of important legal documents, including a living together contract
# instructions to filling out these documents
# sample forms
# legal agreements as tear-outs and on CD-ROM

This edition provides the latest law in readable 50-state charts, and includes many fill-in-the-blank legal forms. It also discusses the laws covering same-sex marriages and civil unions, which are often so broad, they affect unmarried heterosexual couples as well.

List of Forms

Agreement of Joint Intent Not to Have a Common Law Marriage
Agreement to Keep Property Separate
Attachment A (Separately Owned Property)
Agreement to Share Property
Attachment B (Jointly Owned Property)
Agreement for a Joint Purchase
Agreement Covering Rented Living Space
Letter Requesting Permission to Add a Roommate
Contract for Equal Ownership of a House
Promissory Note
Contract for Unequal Ownership of a House
Agreement for One Person to Move Into the Other's House and Become an Immediate Co-Owner
Agreement for One Person to Move Into the Other's House and Become a Co-Owner Gradually
Acknowledgment of Parenthood
Will
Codicil
Short-Term Agreement Regarding Separation and Housing
Agreement to Protect Property During a Split-Up
Agreement to Mediate and Arbitrate
Home Buyout Agreement

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Chase (Mirren), a lifetime resident of Martha's Vineyard, married Richard (Bridges), and like the area, grew into the Upper-Middle-Class. Her distaste for artificiality leads her to a wild breakdown, and Richard dutifully tries to restore their family unit as best he knows how by hiring a 'Mother's Helper', Elizabeth (Sedgwick). Chase is broken, and wickedly caustic towards Elizabeth, until they discover each other's similarities. A strong relationship develops, affecting their personal and familial salvation, and destruction.

Over the course of 40 years, two Texas farm boys -- straight-arrow Gid (Anthony Perkins) and laid-back Johnny (Beau Bridges) -- fight over the affections of the beautiful and headstrong Molly Taylor (Blythe Danner), who consistently refuses to marry either of them. Directed by the legendary Sidney Lumet and based on the Larry McMurtry novel Leaving Cheyenne, this sleeper love story features first-rate performances by three fantastic actors.

This witty sex comedy stars Shirley MacLaine and James Coburn as a pair of married doctors who get caught up in tag-team mate swapping. After middle-aged Evelyn (MacLaine) begins a tryst with handsome younger man Greg (Stephen Collins), her workaholic hubby (Coburn) takes up with Greg's live-in lover, Stephanie (Susan Sarandon). But everything hits the proverbial fan when the two-timing couples end up vacationing at the same Acapulco resort.

Loving More® is a national not for profit corporation, educational website, online community and magazine dedicated to support and education of polyamory and polyamorous issues, supporting the polyamorous community both nationally and internationally for more than twenty two years. We are in the process of applying for 501c(3) status making us a non-profit charitable organization.

The Loving More Website offers information on polyamory including terminology, FAQ, links, professional listings and is a portal through our links to local, national and international groups/organizations about or related to polyamorous issues. Our community connections site is a forum for people to find support and connection through Loving More membership gaining access to chats, profiles, blogs and other features on a site dedicated to polyamory.

Loving More Magazine started out as PEP Talk (Polyamory Education Primer) and in 1994 became Loving More Magazine. It is the oldest magazine in the world dedicated exclusively to responsible multi-partner relationships. The magazine features articles from people who are deeply involved in the polyamorous relationship style and focuses on issues such as jealousy, compersion, communication, family, sexuality and social stigma. Each issue includes polyamory resource listings, book and video reviews, a calendar of events, and advice column.

For over 22 years the Loving More® organization has sponsored an annual polyamory conference retreats. The educational efforts have now grown to include two Hotel conferences known as Poly Living on the East and West Coast, the annual Loving More Retreat being held in upstate New York, the Loving Choices one day seminars around the country, as well as sponsoring classes and workshops, support groups and running an online bookstore.

The Loving More® conferences are the largest polyamory conferences in the world. These events are a great place to meet others like you who are exploring what's possible in relationships. You can "hear from experts," find out "is this for me?" and see who else is exploring these possibilities and perhaps find new friends and partners in the process. ALL THIS AND MORE HAPPENS EVERY YEAR. Each conference typically has from 150 to 200+ people attending.

There is no way to adequately describe the feeling we have at the end of our conference season having met hundreds of amazing, talented, adventurous souls traveling a path that has led them to one or more of Loving More's events. And from the mail we get, those attending feel the same way. Every year, new relationships are formed, people gain new insights and direction, or simply refuel in the glow of having met with many new and old friends in a weekend designed to help you connect with others while exploring your own inner and outer world of relationships.

Join us as we touch each other with our dreams and share our collective experience on this most exciting journey into the heartland. Share with others who seek ways to include more loving friends in life, learn from professionals who have developed specific skills related to polyamory. Draw on the wisdom of experienced polyamorists and learn successes and mistakes. But above all, the Loving More Conference is about what you bring to it. You are an important part of this (r)evolution in relationship and your contribution, even if just an inquiring presence, is significant.

The conference is many things to many people and all ages, races, and orientations are welcome. Whether you are just "fact finding," looking for new friends or partners, or just wanna celebrate with friends, we hope you will join us for the biggest polyamory gatherings in the world. Please do not hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or concerns. We are happy to answer them as best we can.

Please do not hesitate to contact us if you have any questions or concerns. We are happy to answer them as best we can.

A trio of rum-runners during prohibition in the 1930s engage in a menage-a-trios after business hours.

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by Stephanie Coontz

Marriage has never been more fragile. But the same things that have made it so have also made a good marriage more fulfilling than ever before. In this enlightening and hugely entertaining book, historian and marriage expert Stephanie Coontz takes readers from the marital intrigues of ancient Babylon to the sexual torments of Victorian couples to demonstrate how recent the idea of marrying for love is-and how absurd it would have seemed to most of our ancestors. It was only 200 years ago that marriage began to be about love and emotional commitment, and since then the very things that have strengthened marriage as a personal relationship have steadily weakened it as a social institution. Marriage, A History brings intelligence, wit, and some badly needed perspective to today's marital debates and dilemmas.

by Esther Perel

A provocative and controversial look at intimacy and sexual relationships by a seasoned clinician who examines the paradoxical relationship between domesticity and sexual desire and explains what it takes to bring lust home. In her 20 years of clinical experience, Esther Perel has treated scores of couples who complain of domestic lives devoid of eroticism. They describe loving, intimate relationships that are egalitarian and open and yet, their sex lives are passionless and dull. In her explosively original thesis, Perel explains that our cultural penchant for equality, fairness and absolute candor is antithetical to erotic desire for men and women alike. Sexual excitement, she explains, doesnt play by the rules of good citizenship. Rather, it is politically incorrect, thriving on power plays, role reversals, unfair advantages, imperious demands, ambiguity in gesture and words, seductive manipulations, and subtle cruelties. We might have exciting, playful, even poetic sex if we were less constrained in the bedroom by our emotional correctness and our emphasis on safety and respect.

TV reporter Rob Salinger is married to Micki, but because she's always busy working, they hardly ever spend time together. One night at which he got stood up by Micki again, Rob meets cellist Maude and they soon get romanticly involved. When it turns out Maude is pregnant with his baby, Rob decides to marry Maude. When he's on the verge of telling Micki, she tells him she's pregnant, so he doesn't have the heart to leave her, but he marries Maude anyway. Now married to two pregnant women who don't know about each other, Rob has a busy time taking care of both and keep them from finding out.

The Milwaukee LGBT Community Center is a community-based organization represented by more than 150 volunteers and over 300 members. It's mission is to improve the quality of life for LGBT people in the Metro Milwaukee area.

by Sheryl Garrett and Debra Neiman

Unmarried couples account for more than 5.5 million households in the U.S., but most of them never take the time to plan for a secure financial future. Yet planning is especially important for these couples since, despite their rising number, they still haven't achieved the financial benefits afforded to those who choose to marry, such as health insurance and Social Security survivor benefits. Designed for both heterosexual and same-sex couples, this informative guide to financial planning stresses the importance of discussing individual and joint financial goals with your partner, regardless of how casual or permanent the relationship is. Garrett and Neiman explore a wide range of issues, including how to hammer out a co-parenting agreement and how to decide whether to share a bank account. The authors also encourage couples to start saving more money: "Less than 1 percent of all Americans will be able to retire at age 65 and maintain their same standard of living." Financial planning is often a tense and difficult topic for couples to discuss but, with its real life examples, tidy bulleted lists and a glossary of confusing terms, this book should help readers get the conversation started.

"...Our society has many influences for both monogamous and polyamorous relationships. Regardless of individual's personal viewpoint, neither type is better than the other. Everyone is free to choose how they want to conduct their lives. Conducting a relationship with one or more partners needs to have all parties on the same page when conducting any relationship. This will strengthen the bond and connection that is forming since ideals are being communicated creating necessary dialogue..."

by Helen Boyd

A straight woman who has been married several years to a crossdressing man gives a thoughtful account of their relationship (as well as the relationships of other crossdressers she knows) in this forthright and revelatory book. "Instead of putting a 'pretty face' on crossdressing," Boyd writes, "I think this book paints a more realistic picture." Her interest is as much in the broader issues of love and acceptance, denial and repression, human nature and sexual identity as it is in the who, when, why and how of crossdressing. Boyd shares personal and often intensely private moments in order to illustrate her findings, describing her husband's ritual for getting dressed as a woman and candidly admitting that she once believed that she would never be able to accept his behavior. Particularly sharp is her chapter on gendered politics, which takes to task members of the crossdressing community who isolate themselves "from all the groups who could otherwise educate and liberate them: the feminist community, the gay and lesbian communities." Though such comments may be uncharacteristically harsh for a book that by and large supports crossdressers and their actions, Boyd's opinions lend her discussion a critical viewpoint and comprehensiveness that it might not have had otherwise. Boyd, who founded the online support group CDOD, helps out newbies to the topic by making distinctions among phrases like "transgendered" and "transvestite" that are sometimes unknowingly used interchangeably and by summarizing the history of and research into the behavior. Honest and well researched, this book is likely to become an indispensable guide for woman who are trying to forge stable, accepting relationships with crossdressing men. Given the topic and Boyd's approach, it is a shame that the author still felt the need to mask her true identity by using a nom de plume.

by Ronald Mazur

The close of the 20th century has witnessed the minority status of the traditional family in America. On the threshold of a new millennium, now is an opportune and urgent time to give voice to the intimacies of alternative lifestyles, including open marriage. Traditional monogamy is still the prize for countless adults searching for meaning and love in their lives. That search is honored by myriad religious and societal supports. It is to non-traditionalists, to those ready for new life and love affirmations, that this book is offered with joy.

The evolution of human consciousness prepares the way for the unfolding of our universal polyamorous potential. Let the pioneers be unafraid to move beyond the ancient limits of relationships to the new intimacy of responsible erotic freedom. May the new millennium be the end of pleasure-phobia.

Tom Farrell is a navy officer who gets posted at the Pentagon and is to report to the secretary of defence David Brice. He starts an affair with Susan Atwell not knowing that she is Brice's mistress. When Susan is found dead, Tom is assigned to the case of finding the killer who is believed to be a KGB mole! Tom could soon become a suspect when a polaroid negative of him was found at Susan's place. He now has only a few hours to find the killer before the computer regenerates the photo.

By Marshall Rosenberg

"Nonviolent Communication is a masterwork. Nationally, we talk peace. This book goes far beyond mere talk. . . . It shows us how to TEACH peace." -James E. Shaw, Ph.D., author, Jack and Jill, Why They Kill

"Nonviolent Communication is a powerful tool for peace and partnership. It shows us how to listen empathically and also communicate our authentic feelings and needs. Marshall Rosenberg has a genius for developing and teaching practical skills urgently needed for a less violent, more caring world." -Riane Eisler, author, The Chalice and the Blade, Tomorrow's Children, and The Power of Partnership

"Nonviolent Communication is a simple yet powerful methodology for communicating in a way that meets both parties' needs. This is one of the most useful books you will ever read." -William Ury, coauthor of Getting to Yes and author of The Third Side

"...In One Big Happy Family: 18 Writers Talk About Polyamory, Open Adoption, Mixed Marriage, Househusbandry, Single Motherhood, and Other Realities of Truly Modern Love (Riverhead, February), we meet 18 families that could not be more different from one another, each demonstrating that healthy families come in a variety of configurations.

Rebecca Walker, the book’s editor, describes in the introduction her process in choosing these extraordinary pieces, writing, “I was looking for stability, complexity, longevity and overall happiness. When I saw those four elements in a family, no matter what it looked like, I paid closer attention.” .."

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This is a great article (with actual research to back it) about the invented culture of polyamory - not polygamy. It's well written and a very nice insight into the way in which we live.

This blog is part of a larger process that was originally the writing of a book. I started researching and writing in early 2004 and interviewed a whole range of people over the next couple of years. By 2006 I began to feel that a full-length book on this project was going to take quite a few more years, so I decided to write a minibook in order to publish some of the insights I’d got from all that research.

This minibook came out in October 2006, published by Purple Sofa Publications (a publisher set up especially for the purpose). It is entitled Open Fidelity - an A-Z Guide and the full details are on the ‘Books’ tab. If you want to read the distilled wisdom from this blog without any of the waffle, buy the book now (click on the ‘Sales’ tab at the top)!

After that was published and the minor storm in the media about it had abated, I got on with writing what I called ‘the main book’: a full-length book detailing all my research and interviews and ideas. And it was carrying along, slowly, in between me doing other things (like life) and trying to make a living.

But it was beginning to dawn on me that this is going to take a very long time to come to fruition, and that the financial rewards in the end are likely to be pretty small, if anything, unless it becomes a bestseller. So I started to wonder about alternatives ways of getting my ideas into the public domain that would involve less of a delay. I’m not completely altruistic, and I want to make sure I get credited for the parts of all this that are original, and it would be useful to make a little money as well, if only so that I can spend more of my time on the project.

So the result is this blog. At some point another book might arise out of this and non-blog material. In the future there will be adverts on the blog, hopefully unobtrusive ones. I will be looking for ways to make money from the blog without jeopardising the main aim of the project, which is to inform people about the possibilities of honest non-monogamy and help them to avoid cheating on their partners.

By Nena O'Neill and George O'Neill

The O'Neills' exciting, original approach to married life shows you and your mate how the stifling, limited arrangement you've always thought marriage had to be can be opened up into an honest, undemanding, joyful relationship. they'll introduce you to the OPEN MARRIAGE concepts-trust, liking, role flexibility, individual freedom and growth, and love and sex without jealousy-that can do wonders for your marriage. OPEN MARRIAGE must be read before you get married-or before your marriage gets a day older!

"...I love that being attracted to, or even coupling with, someone else doesn't have to be a relationship's deal-breaker. Even more so, I'm enthralled with the sense of personal satisfaction, empowerment, and validation -- and interpersonal intimacy and connection -- that the necessary communication about such a possibility would foster. Mostly, I'm glad that my fear about what a relationship has to be is starting to be lifted. Because I do want a partnership. I just don't want any of the kinds I've already seen..."

References Jenny Block's Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage

By Jenny Block

Finally, a book about open marriage that grapples with the problems surrounding monogamy and fidelity in an honest, heartfelt, and non-fringe manner. Jenny Block is your average girl next door, a suburban wife and mother for whom married life never felt quite right. While many books on this topic presuppose that the reader is ready to embrace an “alternative lifestyle,” Block operates from the assumption that most couples who are curious about or engaged in open marriages are in fact more like her — normal people who question whether monogamy is right for them; good people who love their spouses but want variation; capable parents who are not deviant just because they choose to be honest about their desires. Open challenges our notions of what traditional marriage looks like, and presents one woman's journey down an uncertain path that ultimately proves open marriage is a viable option for her and others

by Tristan Taormino

Relationship expert and bestselling author Tristan Taormino offers a bold new strategy for creating loving, lasting relationships. Drawing on in-depth interviews with over a hundred women and men, Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships explores the real-life benefits and challenges of all styles of open relationships--from partnered nonmonogamy to solo polyamory. With her refreshingly down-to-earth style and sharp wit, Taormino offers solutions for making an open relationship work, including tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, finding community, parenting, and time management. Woven throughout the book are the diverse voices of real people--from a woman with two husbands and a suburban swinger couple to polyamorous parents and a gay male triad--who candidly share their struggles, fears, hopes, and the secrets of their success in open relationships. Opening Up will change the way you think about intimacy--and will help you decide if an open relationship is right for you.

Michael Lynch is Dublin's most notorious criminal, his brazen robberies making him the bane of the Gardaí and a hero to his fellow working class city Northsiders. When not playing happy families with his two wives - sisters Christine and Lisa - and his children, Lynch is busy plotting elaborate heists, thinking as much about the showmanship of it all as he is the loot involved. On his case is Garda Noel Quigley, his determination to convict Lynch slowly turning into an obsession. Inevitably, a showdown looms.

by Raven Kaldera

The term “polyamory” describes non-monogamous relationships based on honesty and affection. Presenting a fascinating peek inside the polyamorous lifestyle from a Pagan perspective, Raven Kaldera offers practical insight and spiritual depth into a vastly misunderstood way of life.

Relating polyamory to astrology and the elements (air, fire, water, earth, and spirit), the author addresses all aspects of the polyamorous life, including family life, sexual ethics, emotional issues, proper etiquette, relationship boundaries, and the pros of cons of this lifestyle. Kaldera also discusses polyamory as a path of spiritual transformation and shares spells, rituals, and ceremonies for affirming one's relationships and spirituality.

A Michigan farmer and a prospector form a partnership in the California gold country. Their adventures include buying and sharing a wife, hijacking a stage, kidnaping six prostitutes, and turning their mining camp into a boomtown. Along the way there is plenty of drinking, gambling, and singing. They even find time to do some creative gold mining.

For Polyamorists With a Whole Lotta Love, Three, or More, Is Never a Crowd

A polyfidelitous trio try to make a go of world domination without stepping on too many toes, or having to go too far from home. May contain humour, joy, love, anger, use of Canadian spellings and occasional bitterness.

Administer daily, but remember to ask your doctor if Pax Compoundia is right for you.

by Serena Anderlini-D'Onofrio

With its mixed bag of literary criticism, cultural theory, testimonials, creative writing, and reports from the field, Plural Loves: Designs for Bi and Poly Living maps the discursive debate where bisexuality and polyamory meet. Besides responsible forms of non-monogamy, the issues discussed in the book include group marriage, polyfidelity, cheating, solo-sex (and group solo-sex), tantric expression, sacred eroticism, transculturalization, utopian communities, and inclusive forms of kinship. The book explores the common ground shared by the bisexual and polyamorist movements, and addresses the ways in which bisexuality and polyamory have been portrayed in cinema and literature in the United States and Europe.

Poly Big Fun is a weekend retreat in which we gather together the poly, poly-curious, and poly-friendly folk. For a weekend we form a temporary community in order to bond with one another, to meet new people, and to discuss the various aspects of the polyamorous lifestyle.

You can expect:

* friendly, informal, fun atmosphere
* small, interactive discussions on a wide variety of topics related to polyamory, sexuality, relationships, spirituality, and even some topics of general interest
* campfire
* group meals
* group (dormitory-style) accommodations or primitive camping available
* a chance to meet polyfolk from other cities and even other states
* talk with folks in a variety of poly situations
* vegetarian friendly
* careful consideration of common food allergies
* ADA accessible

All regional poly and poly-friendly folks are invited to gather in the mountains of West Virginia this summer to enjoy the outdoors and have fun together.

Caving trip will feature a special spelunking expedition through Bowden Cave, an excellent non-commercial beginner cave, plus some exciting new adventures this year. Our guide Mike the Caver has indicated he might show us other caves this year!

Camping will be in the commercial Princess Snowbird campground, with tent sites, limited camper hookups, and some cabins available. Polycamp campers must make their own camping arrangements with Princess Snowbird campground.

Poly group activities will be mostly impromptu depending on folks' interests, but will include potluck dinner Saturday evening, and a group campfire gathering.

Other activities can be planned for the weekend including fishing, hiking, horseback riding, scenic drives, and the Seneca Rocks Discovery Center. Also available in the area are rock climbing and canoeing (water permitting).

Polycamp NW's Mission is for one weekend a year to be a place to come together as a community; to share our expertise and experience; to have fun; to find like-minded folks; and to support the growth of families regardless of their configuration. This is a communal event. We work together to make Polycamp happen.

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A blog run by Alan that collects all sorts of news on polyamory and non-monogamy. He finds articles in newspapers, new book releases, events, and talks about other issues facing poly's today.

polymatchmaker.com is your source for information about:
polyamory, poly, unconditional love, primaries, secondaries, vees, triads, open relationships, polyfidelity, quads, bisexuality, polyfolk, alternative relationships, networks, lovestyle, compersion, group marriage, multiple loves, homosexuality, transsexuality, polygyny, polyandry, polygamy, non-monogamy, and NRE.
Just to name a few.

Polyamory Southeast

Polyamory Southeast (pse) is dedicated to providing support to people who believe in polyamory, polyfidelity, responsible non-monogamy, etc. This support consists of sporadic Poly Potlucks, meetings, gatherings, get-togethers, hanging out, having fun, support group meetings, etc. We seek to encourage those who are committed to a poly life, and to educate people about what polyamory is (and isn't).

To put it less formally, we're a loosely organized (very loosely--trying to herd cats comes to mind) group of folks in Atlanta and surrounding areas who are interested in polyamory, aka responsible non-monogamy. We aren't all necesarily polyamorous, or currently practicing poly lifestyles--some of us are, some aren't, and some are exploring to find out if they'd even want to do so. We have irregular gatherings that are a combination of social events, discussion/support sessions and simple networking. We welcome interested folk of all ages, genders, orientations, races, religions, etc. In fact, anybody from anywhere is welcome to join in our events--perambulating polyfolk, etc., and we'll happily add anybody to our contact lists. Most events have been in the Atlanta area.

He's Polygestalt, she's Polyfulcrum, and I'm S1m0n. We are a quirky MFM polyamorous triad in Vancouver, Washington, and we bought a house together in August 2008.

Convinced that each of us has spare time and that our lives are extraordinarily interesting, we've decided to hone our writing skills and share our experiences through a blog. Yay!

The forums here are pretty extensive and they have quite a few active members. This is probably the most populated poly forum we have found to date.

A list of counselors who acknowledge polyamory as a valid lifestyle and treat the issue with respect.

A list of professionals that acknowledge polyamory as a valid lifestyle and treat the issue with respect.

Polyamorous NYC is an organization designed to nurture a prosperous polyamorous community among Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual and Transgender people and their allies in New York City. The group is diverse, including individuals, couples and groups of all ethnicities and genders. What brings us together is our shared interest in long-term, romantically-committed, multiple-partner relationships.

"Conversations about polyamory - the practice of having more than one intimate partner at a time - are slowly finding their way into public consciousness. Two newly published books (Open: Love, Sex, and Life in an Open Marriage and Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships) reflect an increasingly popular postmodern view of love and relationships led by post-second-wave feminist and queer communities.

In Open, Jenny Block uses personal narrative to shed light on the complex normality of open relationships. Her book nicely complements Tristan Taormino’s “how-to”-style Opening Up, which provides practical advice on making open relationships work. These two authors’ perspectives on legitimating family structures that encompass many kinds of love, not just that of one man and one woman, are a valuable addition to the debates that were rejuvenated in the wake of California’s passage of Proposition 8 banning gay marriage..."

By Janet Kira Lessin

POLYAMORY, MANY LOVES, The Polytantric Lovestyle, A Personal Account, by Janet Kira Lessin will challenge, delight, satisfy, amuse and entertain you. Join Janet in her juicy journey of sacred sexuality in Polyamory, Many Loves. She explores pair dating, a woman/man/woman threesome, man/woman/man triads, quatrads, networks, and finally, a polyamorous pod. Janet shares her innermost thoughts, feelings, spiritual epiphanies and erotic experiences as she learns the ways of many-lover loving with increasing skill and grace. Her trials and triumphs teach all who would tread the path of polyamory. Janet's amorous experiments lead her to blend All-Chakra Tantra--her variety of sacred loving--with polyamory--relating to contemporaneous multiple lovers. The synthesis Janet creates is the PolyTantric Lovestyle. The polytantric lovestyle heals emotional pain and social separation for individuals, pairs, and groups and will, Janet believes, be therapeutic for the world as well.

"The following are the words of ultra conservative, presidential hopeful Republican Kansas senator Sam "Chicken Little" Brownback. What's interesting about them besides the fact that someone actually used the word polyamory in a senate debate is that he's using alarmist tactics to galvanize the Senate to act to "protect" marriage. I'm very well connected to the polyamory activist community, and there is no poly marriage movement waiting until same-sex marriage is legalized to stake out its claim - this assertion is nothing more than typical Washington political posturing..."

Polyamorous Percolations strives to provide a comprehensive resource for people actively living in, curious about or affected by a polyamorous relationship. We believe that everyone deserves the right to live their life in whichever safe, healthy, respectful and consensual manner they feel suitable to their own personal preferences.

We believe that Polyamory is a growing part of society and We are able to provide a centralized source of information for anyone who wishes to learn more about our community. Our goal is to become a leader in the education and promotion of the polyamorous lifestyle.

The Polyamory Society is a nonprofit organization which promotes and supports the interest of individuals of multipartner relationships and families. Currently the Society provides information and is building membership. This page is a general outline of what we would like to see provided to Polyamorists and their families.

A weekly podcast by Cunning Minx. "Responsible non-monogamy from a kink-friendly, pansexual point of view." The podcast has been going for quite a long time now and covers just about every issue you can think of related to non-monogamy.

A general discussion forum where you can talk about your day-to-day life as a poly.

by Anthony Ravenscroft

Tony Ravenscroft leaves behind the speculation, the guesswork, and the Utopianism that only confuse the discussion. Polyamory: Roadmaps for the Clueless & Hopeful begins from the absolute basics of intimate relationships, and clearly lays out the pitfalls and problems that await everyone who embarks upon this difficult and highly rewarding way of life.

Polyamory (the book) is for everyone with any interest in the subject. Whether you’re merely curious, or already embroiled in a complex responsibly nonmonogamous life, you will find a greater understanding of what is going on. Even if you are happily married for the rest of your life, you will improve your relationships with the other people in your life.

Even a book this large can only hope to answer half your questions. Tony Ravenscroft does that, and shows you how to find your own answers for the rest.

by Deborah M. Anapol

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"Polyamory has been defined as the philosophy and practice of loving more than one person at a time with honesty and integrity. Synonyms for polyamory are responsible, ethical, and intentional, non-monogamy. Because those descriptions are somewhat clumsy, the term Polyamory was coined in the late 80's by a pagan Priestess, Morning Glory Zell, and defines a range of different lifestyle alternatives. In most cases, but not all, this involves some sexual or at least intensely intimate sensual behavior.

There have been various polyamorous communities and communes, perhaps the most famous being the Onieda Community in New York State in the mid-1800's, but generally they are isolated and keep their heads down, given the prevailing moral climate.

What do Polyamorists, in general, say they believe? ..."

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If it is your dream to live in a polyamorous family and you understand that people are human with human problems, needs, hopes, dreams and fears, you've come to the right place. We have Julie Jacob, Goddess of Giggle, with her comic Spice! to present a humorous view of a fictional poly family, Noël Lynne Figart, the Goddess of Java and The Polyamorous Misanthrope to rant, rave and edify, and even occasionally you'll find her columns aren't all that misanthropic, after all. We have stories about polyamorous households, advice on saving money, and help to find the legal arrangements you need to make your family dream a reality.

French Film. In the end a woman returns to rejoin her poly family, recognizing it as the right place to be.

This piece is written in “tip format”: a large number of short, easily digestible guidelines and pieces of information. It is not meant to be an entertaining read from front to back, but more as a reference. Want to know how to handle jealousy? Go take a look at the jealousy section.

We come from a polyamory and BDSM background, and we have incorporated these elements into this set of tips in various ways, such as using BDSM in the examples. In general, these tips represent our take on the set of recommendations that we see floating around the polyamory community, combined with our own experience. However, these tips are generally applicable for people practicing most kinds of nonmonogamy, whether or not they are into polyamory or BDSM.

Many of these tips are general rules-of-thumb, and each one probably has circumstances where it does not apply. Do not take this list as a set of hard and fast rules, but rather as a set of recommendations that work most of the time. What works for you will be specific to your personality and situation.

Monogamy works well for some but not others. Social status, religion, race, sexual orientation, and political philosophy don’t matter. Honesty, openness, love, commitment, communication, patience, and egalitarianism do. Here I pass along what I’ve learned and teach at events on common challenges polyamorists encounter and their practical remedies, along with thoughts on related subjects such as community organizing, activism, and sexual freedom.

Jake, desperately trying to recover from the recent betrayal and the tragic death of his beloved fiancee, attempts a novel form of therapy to overcome his great loss. He advertises in the personals, under the pseudonym 'Red Shoes', to pay top dollar to women willing to send to him diaries of their similar experiences and how they overcame them. These are those diaries...

by Wendy-O Matik

Put together your own version of an ideal relationship, embrace the full capacity of your heart to express love, redefine the potential of a friendship, imagine a thousand ways to make love to yourself and to anyone else you care about. Radicalize your relationship by imagining your wildest ideal partnership together. Avoid stagnancy by challenging your old familiar routine and re-inventing new levels of commitment. Face your true desires in life by asking yourself what you really want from all of your connections.

Relationship LLC (RLLC™) is a mark we created to refer to limited liability companies created by people who generally are not married but who want a legally recognized relationship between them. A relationship which would be a legal entity that could buy property, provide health insurance to its members, obtain credit cards, serve as the couple's consulting company (Put Your Relationship LLC To Work), lease a car, file a tax return as a partnership and in general, engage in any legitimate business. Delaware Law also permits one person to create a LLC, i.e., single member LLCs. It is logical to expect that a group or a family would form a Posse LLC (tm) to further the collective welfare and interests of the group. Posse LLC is the mark we created to refer to social and professional associations formalized under LLC law.

Following her husband s death, a wife discovers and confronts her husband's lover. Their mutual pain, love, envy and jealousy bring them together in an unexpected emotional and physical relationship.

Realistic story of working class Yorkshire life. Two schoolgirls have a sexual fling with a married man. Serious and light-hearted by turns.

A man and woman meet by chance at a romantic inn over dinner. Although both are married to others, they find themselves in the same bed the next morning questioning how this could have happened. They agree to meet on the same weekend each year. Originally a stage play, the two are seen changing, years apart, always in the same room in different scenes. Each of them always appears on schedule, but as time goes on each has some personal crisis that the other helps them through, often without both of them understanding what is going on.

J.C., Bonnie, and Roz are good friends. They have been lamenting on how difficult it is to find a good man or that there isn't a good one out there. And before you know they each meet the perfect man; too bad it's the same one, Richard Burknowski, a doctor, who met each of them separately, J.C. who's lawyer, to handle his divorce, Bonnie, a realtor, to find him a new place to live, and Roz, who's a little vain, for a nose job. While he is unaware of their relationship, they aware of him, decide to date him at the same time, each taking turns. But what happens when one of them wants a commitment, will the other two ste aside?

A window into the life and loves of a young black woman in Brooklyn. Nola Darling is dating three very different men simultaneously: Jamie Overstreet -- a controlling, protective, patriarchal type; Greer Childs -- a wealthy, vain, arrogant male model; and Mars Blackmon -- a comical, juvenile, immature jokester. Nola has gone beyond even a love "triangle" and the stability of this love "square" is threatened by the increasing jealousy among her three suitors. Finally, under pressure, Nola makes her "choice," but in the end, is this what she really wants?

by Diane Mapes

Most popular media portrayals depict single women in one of two states: single-and-loving-it or single-and-desperate. Single women strike back in this compilation of essays, edited by author and freelance writer Mapes (How to Date in a Post-Dating World), in which they discuss with candor and courage their own experiences outside of the domestic partnership paradigm. Unfortunately, for every poignant, well-written highlight-such as Chelsea Handler's "Thunder," Sasha Cagen's "How I Dodged a Reality Show Bullet" and Kay Trimberger's "Can a Single Woman Really Be Happy Without a Soulmate?"-there are two or three pieces that grate, either through self-indulgence or sheer volume. In one particularly edit-worthy tale, a sex-columnist debates the merits of her single life versus her married life in a manner not unlike a rambling "confessional" on braindead reality series The Real World: unstoppable and irrelevant. The myriad states of singularity-secure-in-your-fluxing, single-for-life, widower, etc.-that the book brings to light are interesting but, in these essays, fail to intrigue; overall, the collection reads more like excerpts from a support group meeting than a collection of professional work.

by Judy Ford

"Being single is not a condition to be cured"-especially when the remedy possibly means riding a marry-and-divorce roller-coaster just to avoid loneliness-says author and psychotherapist Ford (Wonderful Ways series; Between Mother and Daughter, Getting over Getting Mad). Instead, singles (this book is ostensibly written for all, but may resonate more with women) should reject the lonely and pathetic stereotypes this status usually carries and embrace life's most lasting relationship-the one with themselves. While some may dismiss this advice as a desperate mantra, Ford skillfully uses her own story and others' anecdotes to show that it's possible to be single and content. As a once happily married young woman, a sudden widow at age 29, then a miserably remarried woman, and finally an abandoned divorcée with a baby and an immense debt, Ford knows how precarious it is to put her happiness in the hands of another. In amusing lessons divided among six sections, she counsels readers on how to marshal their singleness to confront whatever adversities they may be forced endure. This fundamental wisdom should not be lost on couples either; after all, everyone must tread solo sometimes. Ford's playful poking at her own past misadventures in love and denial (like when she went solo to a movie and ordered drinks and popcorn for two) will endear her to struggling singles and inspire many to rejoice in life's singular potential.

by Bella DePaulo

DePaulo fastidiously defines the various categories of singlehood-divorced, widowed or just plain never been married-and gives their struggle a voice in this intriguing cultural study. According to DePaulo, "singlism" is the pervasive discrimination single people face in politics and everyday life, though DePaulo makes it clear he isn't equating it with racism or sexism. Rather, DePaulo uncovers society's immediate associations-conscious and otherwise-with the word "single," including the implication of loneliness, homosexuality and/or a personal defect that prevents a single person from achieving the dubiously enshrined goal of marriage. In addition, this exhaustive study reveals how marriage has come to represent the foundation of both American society and politics, and how the resulting system of discrimination pervades even in this modern age of financial freedom-including increased tax burdens, decreased social security benefits, and real-world wage disparity. In identifying the stigmas of being single and debunking myths like "marrieds know best," DePaulo has given this complicated subject the attention and respect it deserves, opening a dialogue without offering any pat solutions.

Harvard in the 1960's: a time of social upheaval and student unrest. Three students (Brad Davis, Karen Allen and Jameson Parker) bond together, challenge the system and begin to lose their ideals.

By Mystic Life

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An average, calm mid-20s girl named Veronica restarts her dead dating life all of the sudden, but with two guys: a sensitive failed writer named Abel and an airheaded drummer named Zed. At first she despairs. Then she finds a way to date both without their finding out. Then she tells both about it. Then Abel and Zed meet each other, and, after much initial conflict, they wind up living together and evolve into a very odd yet happy threesome. However, as time goes by Veronica starts growing apart from them, while Abel and Zed become brother-like (and kid-like). So when a director starts courting a pregnant Veronica, strains ensue. Will Abel and Zed be able to grow up and save the day?

A young American couple go to the Greek islands for the summer and are dazzled by the beauty and the uninhibited people surrounding them. The young man meets and begins an affair with a French woman, an archeologist working on a dig. The young American woman discovers this and goes to confront the other woman. The French woman is quite taken with the American woman's photographic work, and the three become very close.

In 1943, a young painter, Françoise Gilot (1921- ) meets Pablo Picasso (1881-1973), already the most celebrated artist in the world. For the next ten years, she is his mistress, bears him two children, is his muse, and paints within his element. She also learns slowly about the other women who have been or still are in his life: Dora Maar, Marie- Thérèse (whose daughter is Picasso's), and Olga Koklowa, each of whom seems deeply scarred by their life with Picasso. Gilot's response is to bring each into her relationship with Picasso. How does one survive Picasso? She keeps painting, and she keeps her good humor and her independence. When the time comes, she has the strength to leave.

Cyril and Fiona are a long-married couple who travel to an unnamed tropical coastal town to follow their sexual fantasies. There they meet another couple, Catherine, Hugh and their three children. Hugh is a photographer who specializes in nude photographs of peasant women. The Cyril/Catherine and Hugh/Fiona relationships start.

Mediterranean ferryboat captain Henry St James has things well organized - a loving and very English wife Maud in Gibraltar, and the loving if rather more hot-blooded Mistress, Nita in Tangiers. A perfect life. As long as neither woman decides to follow him to the other port.

by David Buss

David Buss proposes that, while jealousy in excess can of course be damaging, it may be an effective coping strategy to deal with real threats to our closest relationships. He raises provocative questions, covering the differences between men and women and their attitudes towards infidelity.

by Dossie Easton and Catherine A. Liszt

For anyone who has ever dreamed of love, sex, and companionship beyond the limits of traditional monogamy, this groundbreaking guide navigates the infinite possibilities that open relationships can offer. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy dispel myths and cover all the skills necessary to maintain a successful and responsible polyamorous lifestyle--from self-reflection and honest communication to practicing safe sex and raising a family. Individuals and their partners will learn how to discuss and honor boundaries, resolve conflicts, and to define relationships on their own terms.

At Harrad College, where controversial coed living situations are established, the students are forced to confront their sexuality in ways that society previously shunned. Part of the experiment is to pair incompatible members of the opposite sex as roommates in order to make them shun the traditional concept of monogamy. The film's primary two "couples" are the sex-crazed Stanley and ultra-timid Sheila, and insecure Harry and liberated Beth. In charge of the "experiment" are Prof. Philip Tenhausen and his wife, Margaret, who seem to enjoy the tension they instigate, as well as the graphic sexual episodes that unfold.

Miriam, a centuries-old vampire, preys on urban clubgoers with her vampire lover John. When John suddenly ages and wastes away, Miriam casts her spell upon Sarah, a doctor who researches premature aging. This neo-Gothic exercise in style and atmosphere is perhaps most widely known for a lesbian sex scene involving Miriam and Sarah, played by Catherine Deneuve and Susan Sarandon.

By Marcia Munson (Author), Judith Stelboum (Editor)

The Lesbian Polyamory Reader shows that the steps toward love and happiness are as easy as 1, 2, 3, and maybe even 4 or 5. It contains personal accounts of the joys, problems, struggles, and successes of living life with multiple intimate involvements. Also included are theoretical articles and analytical essays addressing the political and social significance of choosing a love-style rather than monogamous coupling.

The Open List is a list of professionals (therapists, social workers, psychiatrists, psychologists, consultants, relationship and life coaches, doctors, lawyers, etc.) who are experienced and knowledgeable about alternative sexuality and lifestyles, open relationships, polyamory, nonmonogamy, swinging, etc. The people on this list submitted their information, and therefore I make no claims about them. At the end of the list are links to other similar lists and directories.

"...If you want a label and you get to pick one, which can be rare in alternative culture, why that? Every time I have to sit down and explain to someone I’m polyamorous or “poly” I have to fight the urge to slap myself. I feel like I should be some middle aged hippie with a graying ponytail at some Buddhist retreat talking about the true meaning of unconditional love.

But no matter how I fight it, that is my label…until I come up with a better one. And this blog is about my thoughts and other resources that help figure this whole thing out… or hole thing… no, no whole thing that’s right.

Because if you are anything like me and you have looked around on the intertubes for information, resources, or a “poly” community what you have found is a series of poorly made websites, a bunch of pushy bdsm tops, and some ratty, hot tub infested, swingers clubs.

I know there is good information out there, I’ve even found some, and I am now going to attempt to get it all here. For your use and mine "

A dating site with (so far) very few members, but the numbers of male and female seem to be near-equal.

from the about page:

The Goddess of Java is a polyamorous writer and one of the co-founders of PolyFamilies and she can be found shooting her mouth off from time to time on the PolyFamilies Mailing List.

She originally wanted to call the column “You’re All Fucking Idiots” but was persuaded not to, and then renamed it as a nod to a fellow citizen of her home town. (Florence King, who lives in Fredericksburg, VA, used to have a column called The Misanthrope’s Corner. She makes the Goddess of Java look like an effete wimp, too).

She lived in a group marriage for five years, is a parent to two of the most amazing children that she hasn’t the arrogance to take credit for and has been polyamorous since her mid teens. She has given talks, organized conventions and would be delighted to give more talks on the subjects of life, love and Polyamory if asked.

In early 1900s' Pennsylvania, Mr. Pennypacker has two company offices and two families with a combined total of 17 children. With an office in Harrisburg and an office in Philadelphia, he has successfully kept two separate homes. However, when an emergency requires his oldest son to find him, Mr. Pennypacker's dual life is revealed.

Respected liberal Senator Joe Tynan is asked to to lead the opposition to a Supreme Court appointment. It means losing an old friend and fudging principles to make the necessary deals, as well as further straining his already part-time family life. But it could be a big boost to his career, so he takes it on. Helping him prepare the case is pretty southern researcher Karen Traynor, and their developing relationship further complicates and compromises his life.

By Deborah Taj Anapol

As we search for love in our lives, most of us often feel as though we're on a journey without a compass, or even worse, with a faulty map. We are programmed from our earliest childhood experiences with scores of assumptions about love.

We're taught male and female roles, and ways of seeing ourselves, that may lead to separation, fear and mistrust. These many fallacies and misconceptions lead us to associate love with disappointment and pain. In The Seven Laws of Love, Dr. Deborah Anapol gives us a warm, simple and universal guide to the principles that are common to all loving relationships.

Drawing from the stories of the thousands of individuals and couples she has counseled in her workshops and private practice, from her own personal struggles and victories, and from sacred texts, Dr. Anapol distills love down to its basic essentials.

Based on real-world observations, she identifies the seven laws that flow naturally from the true nature of love and shows how we can apply these to our lives. Her warmth, humor, utter honesty, and lucid writing style cut through the misunderstandings that get in the way of intimacy, and give us an accurate map to the source of love inside ourselves.

by Kris A Heinlein

Make way for the next sexual revolution! Plenty of books describe the mechanics of sex but barely scratch the surface. The Sex and Love Handbook explores the most sensual sexual organ: the human brain. Explore the emotions, philosophies, risks and rewards of reaching toward your next sexual level. Nothing is out of bounds except dishonesty and hypocrisy. Learn how to be more fulfilled and to better fulfill your lover(s). Discover the ultimate sexual YOU, and make it a reality.

"Polyamory has a certain credibility these days. Media outlets interview poly people and actually present with a positive spin. Talk show audiences are incredibly hostile to poly guests, but the talk show hosts are usually on our side. While coming out as polyamorous can still lose you friends, often people turn out to be surprising supportive, respecting your choices without getting insecure about their own situation. Moreover, the idea of polyamory seems to be hitting a cultural tipping point, where people are simply expected to know the word and the ideas behind it, with zero explanation. There is a certain legitimacy there, the legitimacy of being recognized by the culture at large..."

In Nebraska, in pioneer days, a woman who knows she is going to die asks a prostitute to replace her with her husband and four children in order to make it possible for them to keep their family farm.

Tomas is a doctor and a lady-killer in 1960s Czechoslovakia, an apolitical man who is struck with love for the bookish country girl Tereza; his more sophisticated sometime lover Sabina eventually accepts their relationship and the two women form an electric friendship. The three are caught up in the events of the Prague Spring (1968), until the Soviet tanks crush the non-violent rebels; their illusions are shattered and their lives change forever.

by Barbara Foster

This study, or triography, claims to be the first written on the topic of love triangles for a general audience. After "a quest for the origins, tradition, and current standings of the menage a trois," the authors, recently profiled as a threesome in the New York Observer, examine famous and infamous groupings. From the obvious (Anais Nin and Henry and June Miller) to the far-fetched and fictitious (Lois Lane, Clark Kent, Superman), the reader is exposed to the details of the relationships among these and other trios. The sightings seem to be held up to make the point that multipartner arrangements are, if not natural, at least common enough. Cited quotes from sexual pundits Camille Paglia and Dr. Ruth won't make this a must for the library, though the sexually liberated and curious might find the gossipy anecdotes titillating.

Eddy and Stuart share two-thirds of a dormitory suite. Due to bureaucratic error, a woman named Alex is added to their room. At first, relations among the three are tense. Soon, however, Alex falls for Eddy, and Stuart lusts after Alex. Eddy comes to realize not only that he's gay, but that he's attracted to Stuart. The three pledge not to act on any romantic (or lustful) feelings with each other, and become close friends . . . while bottling up a lot of sexual tension.

"First came traditional marriage. Then, gay marriage. Now, there's a movement combining both—simultaneously. Abby Ellin visits the next frontier of nuptials: the "triad."

Less than 18 months ago, Sasha Lessin and Janet Kira Lessin gathered before their friends near their home in Maui, and proclaimed their love for one another. Nothing unusual about that—Sasha, 68, and Janet, 55—were legally married in 2000. Rather, this public commitment ceremony was designed to also bind them to Shivaya, their new 60-something "husband." Says Sasha: “I want to walk down the street hand in hand in hand in hand and live together openly and proclaim our relationship. But also to have all those survivor and visitation rights and tax breaks and everything like that.”..."

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We are a group of people who believe that ethical, loving relationships need not be monogamous. We meet several times a month in various venues, such as discussion meetings, coffee-shop socials, house parties, dinner outings, movie nights, etc.

We also utilize a list server to keep in touch with our community on-line. To join, you can use the form to the left. You will be asked to participate in a short telephone interview, or to attend an event before your subscription will be completed.

This group is diverse and open-minded and membership will not be limited by age, accessibility issues, gender, choice of kink, religion, color, sexual orientation, race, cultural designation or planet of origin....GLBT friendly. This group also welcomes those with interest in Intentional Community (a.k.a. Communes), co-op living, polyamory and polyfidelity, all of which have in common issues relating to relationships, interrelating and conflict resolution.

Two girls, Carla and Lou meet on the street outside a loft waiting for their boyfriends. In a short time, they find out that they're waiting for the same guy - young actor Blake, who said that he loves only her to both of them but was actually leading double life for a few months already. Angry, they break into his loft and when he returns, a round of accusations and explanations begins.

Unitarian Universalists for Polyamory Awareness (UUPA) has as its Mission to serve the Unitarian Universalist Association and the community of polyamorous people within and outside the UUA by providing support, promoting education, and encouraging spiritual wholeness regarding polyamory.

by Dorian Solot and Marshall Miller

Although these books examine the ins and outs of cohabitation from different viewpoints, they do agree on some basics: cohabitation is on the rise (there are 11 million cohabitors in this country today, claim Solot and Miller), and six out of ten couples live together before marriage (claim the Whitmans). Strangely enough, not many self-help manuals on the subject exist. Founders of the Alternatives to Marriage Project, Solot and Miller are a committed unmarried couple, and their book reflects this perspective. Although they acknowledge that many couples live together as a step before marriage, they are most concerned with couples who are planning to live together instead of getting married. They cover topics such as reasons why couples would decide not to get married, how unmarried couples can legally protect themselves, and how to agitate for acceptance of unmarried lifestyles. Stacy Whitman, a journalist currently living with her fiance , and her sister, lawyer Wynne Whitman, have a different focus. While they recognize that some couples might decide to live together ad infinitum, their advice pertains to couples for whom the wedding bells will eventually toll. They address many of the same areas as Solot and Miller, such as legal protection and how to deal with negative reactions from family and friends, but they also include advice on what to do if one member is not willing to tie the knot. Given the dearth of books on cohabitation, either of these would make great additions to public libraries. Also consider Ralph Warner and others' Living Together: A Legal Guide for Unmarried Couples, endorsed by the authors here.

The mission of the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual and Transgender Resource Center at UW-Milwaukee is to connect with various student populations and the community at large by:

* Embracing the diversity of the UWM student community
* Increasing the awareness, education, and presence of LGBT issues on the UWM campus,
* Providing a resource for students and community members wanting to learn about and advocate for LGBT issues,
* Providing a safe-space for all LGBT students and their allies at UWM to give and receive social and emotional support, and
* Fostering student leadership, and personal, academic, and professional growth through collaborations on and off campus.

The LGBT Resource Center is a student led and funded initiative to serve UW-Milwaukee students and the general University community.

Sexually adventurous Cristina and her friend Vicky, who is bright but cautious, holiday in Barcelona where they meet the celebrated and wholly seductive painter, Juan Antonio. Vicky is not about to dive into a sexual adventure being committed to her forthcoming marriage. But Cristina is immediately captivated by Juan Antonio's free spirit and his romantic allure is enhanced when she hears the delicious details of his divorce from fellow artist, the tempestuous Maria Elena.

Discussion-based group in Victoria, Canada, on the the concept of polyamory and what it means ideologically and practically to love more than one person ethically and openly.

This show is a good one: they research a topic and try to talk to as many different women is variations on the topic.

Watch for Brigetta in this episode; she is a great spokesperson for the community and is highly involved with PolyNYC

"In our culture, we tend to assume that people are monogamous. People generally have relationships with only one person at a time; those who have relationships with more than one person are assumed to be "unattached and dating," or cheating. But there exists a third alternative. Polyamory is a lifestyle in which a person may have more than one romantic relationship, with consent and enthusiasm expressed for this choice by each of the people concerned. Polyamory is distinguished from infidelity by the presence of honest communication between partners and lovers about the existence of each of these relationships in their lives (Hymer & Rubin, 1982).

Not much is known by the psychology field concerning polyamory. Our textbooks on family functioning don't mention it, our diversity literature doesn't incorporate it, and many members of the polyamory community have reported encounters with therapists who are uninformed at best, or biased at worst, about this lifestyle. As a polyamorous woman who is also a psychology professional, I am in a position to try and bridge this distance between the polyamorous community and the psychology profession. This paper will aim to provide psychology professionals with a general introduction to the lifestyles and concerns of polyamorous individuals. It is hoped that this will enhance psychology professionals' understanding of, and ability to provide services to, polyamorous clientele.

I will begin this paper by describing the three main variations of polyamory and the benefits that polyamorous individuals reap from this lifestyle, followed by some demographic data about the prevalence of polyamory within our culture. Following this, I will present a summary of the research studies that have been conducted on polyamory to date. Therapists' views of polyamory will be examined, and empirical data on the psychological and interpersonal functioning of polyamorous individuals will be presented. A brief multicultural perspective will be included as well.

Next, I will describe some of the unique concerns that polyamorous individuals may bring to therapy. The position of this paper is that polyamory is a valid and healthy lifestyle; however, just as there are stressors associated with being gay or bisexual in a heterosexual society, so are there stressors associated with being polyamorous in a monogamous society. The final section of this paper will suggest ways in which a polyamory-aware therapist can help a polyamorous client to navigate successfully through these stressors. It should of course be noted that polyamorous individuals may seek therapy for reasons that have nothing to do with their lifestyle per se; however, the knowledge that their therapist is supportive of their lifestyle as a whole will facilitate a more successful therapeutic rapport..."

It takes viewers on an intimate road trip across North America - from a polyamory conference in the Catskills, a swingers' convention in Las Vegas, to long-term multipartner families in California. Along the way, the filmmakers try to learn from these relationship veterans, while navigating their own fledgling polyamorous relationships. The results are as giddy, painful, sad and loving as real life tends to be.

By Helen Fisher

A male baboon named Sherlock sat on a cliff, unable to take his eyes off his favorite female, Cybelle, as she foraged far below. Each time Cybelle approached another adult male, Sherlock froze with tension, only to relax again when she ignored a potential rival. Finally, Cybelle glanced up and met his gaze. Instantly Sherlock flattened his ears and narrowed his eyes in what baboon researchers call the come-hither face. It worked; seconds later Cybelle sat by her guy, grooming him with gusto. After observing many similar scenarios, I realized that baboons, like humans, develop intense attractions to particular members of the opposite sex. Baboon heterosexual partnerships bear an intriguing resemblance to ours, but they also differ in important ways. For instance, baboons can simultaneously be "in love" with more than one individual, a capacity that, according to anthropologist Helen Fisher, most humans lack. ADVERTISEMENT (article continues below) Fisher is well known for her three previous books (The Sex Contract, Anatomy of Love and The First Sex), which bring an evolutionary perspective to myriad aspects of sex, love, and sex differences. This book is the best, in my view, because it goes beyond observable behaviors to consider their underlying brain mechanisms. Most people think of romantic love as a feeling. Fisher, however, views it as a drive so powerful that it can override other drives, such as hunger and thirst, render the most dignified person a fool, or bring rapture to an unassuming wallflower. This original hypothesis is consistent with the neurochemistry of love. While emphasizing the complex and subtle interplay among multiple brain chemicals, Fisher argues convincingly that dopamine deserves center stage. This neurotransmitter drives animals to seek rewards, such as food and sex, and is also essential to the pleasure experienced when such drives are satisfied. Fisher thinks that dopamine's action can explain both the highs of romantic passion (dopamine rising) and the lows of rejection (dopamine falling). Citing evidence from studies of humans and other animals, she also demonstrates marked parallels between the behaviors, feelings and chemicals that underlie romantic love and those associated with substance addiction. Like the alcoholic who feels compelled to drink, the impassioned lover cries that he will die without his beloved. Dying of a broken heart is, of course, not adaptive, and neither is forsaking family and fortune to pursue a sweetheart to the ends of the earth. Why then, Fisher asks, has evolution burdened humans with such seemingly irrational passions? Drawing on evidence from living primates, paleontology and diverse cultures, she argues that the evolution of large-brained, helpless hominid infants created a new imperative for mother and father to cooperate in child-rearing. Romantic love, she contests, drove ancestral women and men to come together long enough to conceive, whereas attachment, another complex of feelings with a different chemical basis, kept them together long enough to support a child until weaning (about four years). Evidence indicates that as attachment grows, passion recedes. Thus, the same feelings that bring parents together often force them apart, as one or both fall in love with someone new. In this scenario, broken hearts and self-defeating crimes of passion become the unfortunate by-products of a biological system that usually facilitates reproduction. Fisher's theory of how human pair-bonding evolved is just one of several hypotheses under debate today, and she does not discuss these alternatives. Similarly, some of her ideas about love's chemistry are quite speculative (which she fully acknowledges). No one familiar with the evidence, however, can disagree that romantic love is a human universal that requires an evolutionary explanation, and Fisher, more than any other scientist, has brought this important point to public awareness. Like the words of a talented lover, Fisher's prose is charming and engaging. Love poems, both modern and classic, enliven her narrative, along with poignant examples of romantic passion from other times and cultures. One chapter is a litany to passion in other animals, a vivid reminder that we are not the only species that feels deeply. Another provides new insight into the obsessive attempts of abandoned lovers to rekindle romance. Toward the end of the book, Fisher helps to redeem the self-help genre, rooting her advice in hard science. She shows how you might "trick the brain" to maintain enduring passion or recover more quickly from the pain of rejection: "Someone is camping in your brain," she reminds us, and "you must throw the scoundrel out." Engaging in activities known to increase dopamine might help; after all, love is not our only source of intense pleasure. In hands as skilled and sensitive as Fisher's, scientific analysis of love only adds to its magic. If you forgot to give your beloved a gift on Valentine's Day, it's not too late to woo him or her anew with this book, which is likely to fascinate and delight anyone who has ever been in love.

"Polyamory (from Greek πολύ [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [literally “love”]) is the desire, practice, or acceptance of having more than one loving, intimate relationship at a time with the full knowledge and consent of everyone involved. The term polyamory is sometimes abbreviated to poly, and is sometimes described as consensual, ethical, or responsible non-monogamy. The word is sometimes used more broadly to refer to any sexual or romantic relationships that are not sexually exclusive, though there is disagreement on how broadly it applies..."

Remake of Jules et Jim following the experiences over a decade of two friends who fall in love with the same woman, enjoyably satirising the 70's through the search by the three protagonists for their identities and making sharp attacks on cultural signposts of the decade along the way. The film also studies relationships, what its director calls "wanting something permanent yet wanting to be free".

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The World Polyamory Association is a synergistic network of polyamorists, people who love more than one in intimate relationships. These cultural creatives consciously collaborate to heal the planet by creating a a new paradigm of peace and love. We envision a world where personal choice is honored, freedom of expression's celebrated, individuality's embraced and love's revered. In polyamory, love is celebrated through varied relationship structures, diversity of its people, sexual orientation and avenues of expression. Polyamory (loving many) is a high art form and a profound spiritual path which encourages honesty, authentic relating, conscious connections, kind communication and unconditional love. Relating polyamorously frees all of us, awakens the world and propels the planet towards peace.

Simon and Wei-Tung are a gay couple living together in Manhattan. To defer the suspicions of Wei-Tung's parents, Simon suggests a marriage of convenience between Wei-Tung and Wei-Wei, an immigrant in need of a green card. When Wei-Tung's parents come to America for the wedding, they insist upon an elaborate banquet, resulting in several complications.