Coming Out Poly

Nine months ago I met a girl who was innocent, rabidly passionate, intense, and completely unaware of the things that lay within her. Elle has changed dramatically since then. She went from a girl who had never had a boyfriend, to a caring woman and wonderful companion who does so many wonderful things for both me and Nyla.

The woman from Herriot-Watt sent me some more questions. Here are my answers.

Can I ask do you feel the factors which trigger jealousy in your relationships, have changed over time?

Ok, so I wandered off the reservation a bit . . . no, wrong cliche . . . I had my train a bit derailed by myself :/ So, back to the show already in progress. Oh, and a new rule: let's refrain from politics, religion, et al that doesn't relate to poly. While I am always for a good debate regarding my beliefs and opinions, I think we'll leave those to other fora for now.

So what's on the program schedule now? Something completely different, no doubt.

As predicted, a door has closed in the ever-changing world of my polyamorous life. The way with relationships is that they're fluid. It seems to be that when one starts another ends - or vice versa - and anyone in a poly relationship has to truly come to gripes with the fact that this will happen if you don't have a solid relationship (meaning a long-term one).

Two things today: one is a response to an email I received; the other a response to a situation.

December 1, 2007, a date which will live in infamy. Alright, so it wasn't catastrophic - which I had envisioned - but two days later there have already been raised some questions. My co-worker, Logan, and his wife, Diana, ended up not being able to attend the party (much to my chagrin and adding to my anxiety). So Elle and I had to go it alone. But we did alright. There were a few raised brows, a number of questioning looks as people tried to process "this is my girlfriend" and reconcile it with "my wife and I went to dinner last night".

My world is small. I think everyone's is when it really comes down to it. There's always that feeling of "six degrees of separation" you get whenever you meet someone new. In the poly community, my world seems to be even smaller.

Nyla and I went down to Chicago to see her dad's family for Thanksgiving today. It's always an interesting visit with them. The only person who knows about our lifestyle within the group of those that typically show up to the event is her dad. So it makes for a bit of difficulty - at least in my opinion - to talk about anything not related to Nyla and I. As is typical with any family conversation, the obligatory question "how are things with you?" question comes up. Well, there's a lot going on in my life and in Nyla's life (more on that in the next day or so I imagine).

Over the past few weeks, Elle has grown increasingly more interested in what most would consider non-traditional things in the bedroom. She voiced an interest in D/s and BDSM, and I have always been interested in that: Nyla and I have done a great deal with that. However, I was of the mind to let Elle explore to what else was out there, so I nudged her over to CollarMe. Overall it's a good site, but there are a lot of creepies, and being that she's only 20, I was a little nervous about it. Things have turned out well, though.

Sandra D showing the world how it's done. USA Today printed an article online about Sandra Day O'Conner (you know, the first female Supreme Court Justice?). I caught the article from Alan, though, over at Poly in the News.