Coming Out Poly

When Nyla and I first started dating other people, the biggest thing I had to deal with - and still do - is sex with other people. I know it sounds hypocritical to say that I am uncomfortable about it, but it's the truth, and it's one of my insecurities. It haunts me to an extent; it's like I can visualize it, and that really bothers me. I'm not sure where it comes from, but I suspects it's from that sense of abandonment I get in situations where I think my relationship is in danger from another man* . . . but I'm no psychologist.

I dated Tristan and Isolde for quite a while. It started off as Tristan and I being friends. I met Tristan through Last.fm, oddly enough. We chatted about music tastes and noted how close to one another we lived - we probably chatted for 6 or 8 months before I went to a conference up in Madison and noticed his screen name in an IRC chat for the event and we spent the whole weekend hanging out.